222019Nov
Letting Our Guard Down

Letting Our Guard Down

Last night I came home from work (my day job, not counseling) in a pretty good mood. I went about doing several little things I wanted to do, including warming up some delicious supper that my wife had made on Sunday and turning on some TV to watch (by the way, Wu-Tang: An American Saga…

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52019Nov
Listening

Listening

As a counselor, listening is a big part of what I offer others as they come to me with struggles that need to be shared and worked through. Below are some thoughts that came to me today as one of my good friends spurred a conversation about this topic. Listening is often one of the…

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12019Oct
The Perfect Temperature

The Perfect Temperature

In the mornings I typically take a few minutes to turn on the news to catch the weather. Personally, I prefer warmer weather. I would rather be hot than cold, so what I want to hear from the meteorologist is that the day is going to be sunny, warm, and dry. Now, I know everyone…

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242019Sep
What is Driving You?

What is Driving You?

Whether I want to really admit it or even think about it, what I truly believe drives my actions.  And to take it a step further, a lot of times my actions don’t line up with what I say I believe.  My beliefs drive my thoughts, how I view myself, how I view others and how…

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102019Sep
What Matters More?

What Matters More?

What we do matters less than who we are. How we do things matters less than for whom we do them. (From the book Ascent of a Leader by Thrall, McNicol, and McElrath) Living in God’s grace means living our lives out of who God created us to be. We can only reach our human…

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272019Aug
Admission:  The First Step to Freedom

Admission: The First Step to Freedom

Words have felt stuck in my throat.  They are stuffed down and unable to come out.  It has been a while since I have written.  I have not even been doing my personal journaling.     Describing my words as being stuck, stuffed and unable to come out is a reflection of how our lives can be…

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132019Aug
Easy Going

Easy Going

“Let me ask you only this: Did you receive the Spirit by works of the law or by hearing with faith? Are you so foolish? Having begun by the Spirit, are you now being perfected by the flesh?” (Galatians 3:2, ESV) A common lie that I have caught myself falling for is this: “The only…

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302019Jul

Sharing a great blog!

A good friend of ours, Michael Ramsey, wrote a blog this week that I felt resonated with some of the things we have been recently discussing.  We talk a lot about knowing who we are and this blog fits in perfectly.  He says “When people don’t have a clear sense of who they are, they…

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162019Jul
The Real Gift We Have to Offer

The Real Gift We Have to Offer

“…we tend to forget that our real gift is not so much what we can do, but who we are.” (Henri Nouwen) One lie that we often believe is that we need to do more. “Do less bad!, do more good!”, we are told. For some of us, we feel and are told that what…

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92019Jul
We Are Being Lied To

We Are Being Lied To

I look in the mirror, and I do not like what I see. The labels of failure, loser, outcast, and idiot all whirl around inside my head. Do you ever have days like that? I’m talking about those days when we do not feel like we measure up. We find ourselves comparing ourselves to those…

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