Sometimes I feel lost and don’t even know who I am. I catch myself trying to be like this successful person, that great writer or that great coach. Sometimes I don’t understand why I act the way I do or why God gave me certain traits. Why did I respond that way? Why can’t I just make a decision? Why did I get so angry? I also ask these same questions in my relationship with Neil. Why is he acting like that. Why didn’t he do this instead of that? Why does he want that?
If you’re like me and find yourself questioning who you or someone else is then I encourage you to read this old post that describes temperament. This tool has made a tremendous difference in my life and I am constantly going back to it to help me understand who I am.
We would love to provide this service to you and walk with you as you discover who God made you to be and how this looks in your everyday life. Feel free to reach out with any questions -Melissa
All About Temperament
With the launch of our website, one of our hopes is to provide more information about what kind of services we offer. One of the tools we have been using for years now is something called the “Arno Profile System”, which is a particular kind of “Temperament Testing”. Here’s a short rundown on this optional, but valuable tool.
What is a “temperament”?
An easy way to view “temperament” is to envision it as describing a person’s needs, traits, strengths, and weaknesses. One cool thing about knowing your temperament is it will never change. We were born with a certain temperament, by God’s design, so no temperament is a “bad temperament”. Although temperament is not learned and never changes, life experiences can cause one to act out differently than someone with the same temperament. And, of course, the output of our temperament is vastly different when we are acting in sin versus walking by faith. The assessment is only one way of trying to identify and understand the intricacies of God’s workmanship in us, but we have found it very particularly accurate and enlightening for those we have shared it with.
Where did we get this “temperament” stuff and why do we use it?
A large part of our studies revolved around the “Arno Profile System” and being licensed to administer it. Dr. Richard Arno and Dr. Phyllis Arno developed this assessment to help Christian Counselors help others. We can be skeptical when we run across any counseling tool, and this assessment was no different. However, after administering it to a large number of family, friends, and clients, we have found it to be exceptionally helpful. We believe strongly in helping people identify “heart issues” and dealing with those, rather than simply teaching people how to work harder to behave better. The results of temperament assessment helps us and those we work with move towards that goal.
What have our past clients had to say about this?
Here are a few examples of the repeated feedback we have received from those who have completed the assessment and reviewed the results with me:
1) Better understanding of self, along with increased awareness of personal strengths and weaknesses
2) Better understanding of others (wife, child, parent, etc.)
3) Realization of the true cause of the issue with which the person has been struggling
4) Spurring of real, deep conversations between couples planning to marry or having been married for years
5) The realization that some personal tendencies, previously identified as flaws, are actually just misuses of wonderful gifts (traits) God has created in us
6) Learned about the true source of their tendencies, and found themselves learning how to turn “weaknesses” into a “strengths”
How much does this assessment cost?
At present, there is a charge for temperament testing. Please contact us for pricing, as it varies, depending on the situation. For group testing, we will make adjustments based on the number being tested. We do require at least one counseling session to present and explain the results. From our experience, we have seen that most people want more than one session for discussion.
How do I sign up for temperament testing?
Please click here if you think you may be interested in temperament testing for yourself, you and your spouse, pre-marital counseling, your small group at church, your family, or some other setting you might have in mind.
-Neil & Melissa
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